I guess you didn’t read the Slate article. How about I one passage of it here for you: “Why is it not helpful to say ‘not all men are like that’? For lots of reasons. For one, women know this. They already know not every man is a rapist, or a murderer, or violent. They don’t need you to tell them. Second, it’s defensive. When people are defensive, they aren’t listening to the other person; they’re busy thinking of ways to defend themselves….Third, the people saying it aren’t furthering the conversation, they’re sidetracking it. The discussion isn’t about the men who aren’t a problem….Instead of being defensive and distracting from the topic at hand, try staying quiet for a while and actually listening to what the thousands upon thousands of women discussing this are saying.” When a marginalized group speaks to their marginalization, and the way it manifests through the subjugation or exploitation from the privileged group and then the privileged group is quick to say not all of us, it is an attempt at invalidation of the experiences and it risks the perpetuation of that marginalization. Maybe not all men, but enough men do this for it to be an epidemic and a whole culture. And you know what? Plenty of men who aren’t directly raping and harassing are quick to be quiet about it to their fellow men doing it, but quick to speak up to try to shut up the women speaking out. As such, they are complicit in the rape culture.